What is the difference between expectations and standards




















Not everyone can handle more rigor. Instead, I pulled up a chair and sat down at her table. So I went on. Your expectations are what you believe about whether students can meet the standards. Skip to main content. For me, expectations and standards play a huge role in the relationship spectrum. But the lines separating these two were very blurred. Like I said, I believed they were interchangeable.

Though very similar for the most part, these two are more different than you might think. Expectations entertain certain ideas about how we would like situations to turn out, or how we would like other people to behave.

Standards are a set of guidelines or ideas of how you will conduct yourself. For example, I set the standard that I always let a friend know where a first date is taking place so that I have a way home in case the date got uncomfortable. The little things. It takes five seconds and puts the biggest smile on my face. Expectations come in all different sizes, pessimistic to recklessly optimistic.

For example, I need friends and family to at a minimum treat me with respect and kindness. Those are my standards for closeness.

Or lacks thereof. This is true of romantic partners, as well. The tension of different standards can feel so disharmonious that I want it to go away duh! So then the million-dollar question is — How do we hold our standards regardless of reactions and expectations from others? We need to know and hold our standards very dear to our selves and who we are on the inside, no matter what is happening on the outside. We need to consider that another person needs to see, hear, experience, read, feel, smell, taste, and touch what you have as a standard so another can have the opportunity to feel a new standard for them self.

Every part of you has to not want to lower or compromise on that, because you know how important it is to have standards in this world where non-standards are the norm. I know that every part of me does not want kids to use mobile phones the way they use them today.

I do not want the pressures bombarding them to cave in to the new norm of virtually living through a screen. It makes me very willing to hold steady in my standard, and in that I know how to parent my young daughter with no justifying and no questioning of myself because it just feels true and real to me.

I understand that that 12 year old posting a seductive picture of herself is coming from her craving connection with her parents. Our body — our sensitivity — tells us the truth and teaches us what to do, which the masses can hear, see and feel. The woman who is willing to be seen for her standards and lets people be as they are with no expectations by never holding back the reflection of the standards she lives in anyway, is to me a Woman in Livingness.

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